My Mother is My Best Friend…Sometimes


UntitledI’m not a very sappy type of person. Not to my friends, not to my boyfriend of three years; Nobody. I think the only one I give any type of affection to is my dog, my boyfriend’s dogs, and my friend’s dog. Dogs are love, dogs are life.

Anyways, on my way home from school-my day goes from 7 AM to 6 PM every day- I stopped at Target to get a few things for myself. A gallon of sweet tea, a 4-pack of Starbucks chilled coffee, and a good-looking Hershey’s chocolate bar.

I can already feel your judgment from how much sugar I eat, and all I have to say is, “Treat yourself!”

After grabbing my items and getting back into my car, I came to the realization that I hadn’t called my mother in a few days. I like to keep in touch with her because, like most of us college students living on our own, I enjoy getting to know how to do this whole “adulting” thing. But I also realized that I don’t tell her how often I appreciate everything she does for me, and how much I love her.

So, I called her on her cell phone and asked how she was doing. She replied with the casual, “I’m fine” before I proceeded.

“I just wanted to call and tell you how much I love you, and I appreciate everything you do for me even though I don’t say it all too often.”

I thought we were having a sweet, mother-daughter moment.

Again, I’m not a sappy person.

My mother paused for a moment and asked, “What did you do?” as if I was about to confess to a crime I committed.

“Nothing! I just wanted to let you know that-”

“-Hold that thought. I’m gonna go get a glass of water.”

Mom! Really? I’m trying to be sentimental here, and you just ruined the moment! She cut me off as I was trying to express my appreciation. Mind you, I’m still in the Target parking lot, having a full-blown conversation with my mother about how she ruined the moment.

She thought it was funny, though, and I honestly thought it was, too. My mother has always been a little skeptical about the things I choose to do, but at least I know she has my back when something goes down. She knows I think of things without actually sitting on the topic and processing them, but she is definitely my biggest fan and number one supporter.

We continued our conversation as I drove home and had a nice, 40-minute-long chat about current events that have happened in the family and what I plan to do after school. She started telling me how a State job is good pay, and of course I said, “Oh! Money I can spend on cosplay, food, and video games. Cool!”

I could almost feel her give me that “mom look” through the phone. Terrifying. Pursed lips, risen brow, and that stare that sends shivers through your soul. It’s almost impossible to look her in the eye. You know what I mean!

I wish I had more time in my day to talk to my mother. She knows how busy I get during the weeks when softball and schoolwork dominate my life, and the little hour of time I have before she goes to bed is the only time I can sit down and chat.

Either way, any moment I can talk to my mom is never dull. It’s my time of relaxation and laughter when I’m stressed, and a way to pass the time if I need to rant.

Mom is always there, and I really do love and appreciate her for that.

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Introduction-How to Adult Series


imagesWe live in the age of instant gratification, short attention spans, and even shorter sighted goals. The myriad of distractions available have such a hold on our generation—mind you, I am no exception— they can and often do usurp from our minds all things uninteresting and dull. What motivation do we have to spend any amount of thought on the practical when the time could be passed scrolling through social media while watching Netflix and simultaneously Facetiming our S.O.? It is human nature to take the path of least resistance, and we see this played out most dramatically in the lives of us young adults.  The problem is a snow-balling self-fulfilling prophecy; as college students we are aware it is happening, we understand that each moment willingly spend on the readily available distractions does nothing to improve the quality of self, yet we do not resist. That new cat video on YouTube is still more interesting after 30 views than some article about the election, or the pile of homework that never seems to go away, right? Arguably the most depressing part of that idea is not that we are such terrible people who don’t find academics and learning interesting, it is that no one creating curriculum tries very hard to make it interesting—or even relevant half the time.
As a collective, college students are stuck on a cycle of ‘memorize, regurgitate, forget’ and are unwittingly perpetuating the assignment of tasks that can be depressingly menial, all in order to beget knowledge that often times is never interesting enough to file past short-term memory. It is my hope though, that knowledge and learning that has a practical application to life will have ability to hold our interest in a way that a teacher telling us something is relevant does not.
All that being said, I am going to endeavor to do something here that should have begun in grade school. In a series of Blogs I will attempt to share important life skills—knowledge that will actually benefit the life of a college student, or anyone—in a brief and hopefully interesting way. It is my hope that these short, beneficial lessons on ‘How to Adult’ will be able to contend with those ubiquitous distractions and impact in a meaningful way.
Join me here on the KSSU Blog for our first instalment next week: ‘How to Adult: Establishing a Credit Score’ which will be a precursor to our second article ‘How to Adult: Improving a Credit Score’.

Love Life


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Hello there, everyone!

I think we can all agree that life gets hectic at times. Juggling jobs, school, recreation, studying and maybe even a little sleep here and there can seem like an impossible task. When this happens it is easy to get frustrated and discouraged, but you can do it! Balance is possible and don’t take any of your opportunities for granted.

Personally, I find it hard to evenly balance my responsibilities and my desires. I either binge watch Gossip Girl on Netflix and neglect my responsibilities; or I spend copious amounts of time on daily tasks then get frustrated when I don’t have the time to do other activities.

Trying to break the procrastinator cycle can be difficult for many. And from the attendance in the library during the semester, I think everyone falls under the first (bing-watching) category for the first 14 weeks and spends the 15th week in overdrive trying to cram information into the nooks and crannies of their brain. Then comes the sleep deprivation then the stress then the frustration, but it doesn’t need to be that way! I recently found myself in the same rut, but after taking a step back I realized that there is so much I could do to turn that around. Instead of blaming the world around me, I could change my habits and my attitude to live a happier and healthier life. So here are the steps I took to turn things around…

  1. Take inventory of what is going on around you

    The first step to solving the problem is figuring out what the problem is in the first place. Too much sleep? Not enough sleep? Feeling overwhelmed? Procrastinating?Once you’ve identified your problem write them down. Look at what it is that is stressing you out. Then see how much of it can be prevented and think of how you can turn that around.

  2. Appreciate what you have

    This past week I found myself dreading working out and I found inspiration in the most unlikely places, Facebook. I was scrolling through my feed and saw a member of a workout program I instruct for post a picture. It read ” Be thankful for what you have. You have no idea how many people would love to have what you’ve got.” And that really struck me. I am a young, healthy individual. I’ve got two arms, two legs, ten fingers, ten toes and am able to workout. That’s more than some have. I am able to go to an awesome college and graduate in three years. The more I thought about it, the longer the list became. There are over 7 billion people in the world; and I’m glad to be me.

  3. Plan your days out

    If time management is what your troubles boil down to, then make a list. I keep a planner with me at all times! Put everything in there and you will thank yourselves later! That’s right: birthdays, work schedules, school schedule, homework assignments, finals, deadlines, all of it!

  4. Stick to your plans

    It’s a little counterproductive if you spend all this time writting in a calendar and then leave it at home or never open it again. If it helps, write specific tasks to complete each day and cross them out as you go. Your phone is a helpful tool for this as well. If you’ve got an iPhone, take advantage of the calendar and reminder applications; it’s what it is meant for! This helps you feel accomplished at the end of the day and relieves any anxiety about forgetting something.

  5. Do at least one thing you enjoy each day

    It can be as simple as going on a walk or reading, but do something that is strictly for you! Dedicate 30 minutes to an hour to yourself. Treat yo self. If you find yourself with more free time then amp it up by going out with friends!

  6. Smile more and worry less

    You are an amazing person and don’t forget it. Be the best possible version of yourself in all aspects of life.Find that happy balance between work and pleasure and enjoy life. College students spend so much time stressed out that we often lose sight of the fact that these are supposed to be our fun years. While it is important to take school seriously, your mental and physical health need to be in tip top shape as well.  I’ll leave you with this last tid-bit. As Dr. Seuss once wrote:

Today you are you! That is truer than true!

There is no one alive who is you-er than you

The more that you read, the more things you will know.

The more that you learn, the more places you’ll go.

Don’t cry because it’s over. Smile because it happened.

 You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes.

You can steer yourself any direction you choose.

You’re off to Great Places! Today is your day!

Your mountain is waiting, So… get on your way! 

Angelina is a DJ for KSSU

Another example of the Socioeconomic divide: I Want to Quit


Untitled-1As a senior, I should not even be in this class, but like a dingus, I took a class with mostly freshman. On top of that, a communications class. To give you a better idea of my place in this classroom, peep this: the teacher asked me on the first day, “Why are you here? You’re a senior.”

We were having a conversation about capitalism’s role in our lives, and got onto the subject of college students doing the balancing act that is work and homework. He had mentioned before that he helped his daughter through college and had also mentioned that he recently helped her buy a condo in L.A.–she is 35 now. This little tidbit left a bad taste in my mouth. This guy seems to favor entitlement, but he is an honest guy and I look forward to his class. Back to capitalism he caught me off-guard by making a divisive assertion where he insisted that students should not have to work during college. “It is just too hard. You do not get the full value of what you are paying for.” I. Went. In. On. Him.

“WHY SHOULDN’T STUDENTS HAVE TO WORK? ALL THE STUDENTS I KNOW THAT DON’T WORK BECOME INCREASINGLY CLUELESS.”–ME

“You’re justifying your lifestyle to yourself. We should tax the rich so that education is free for everyone.”–Professor

It made me so mad, I mean I am all about making education cheaper. I’m also all about addressing the income gap, but really, students shouldn’t work?

“Your parents are responsible for you. They should pay for everything while you are in school. It is their job to help you through.”

I don’t think so. I just don’t. Just because you have kids, do you really have to subsidize their education? That is what I would want to do, but once I learned my parents couldn’t help (at least consistently), I did not have the gusto to ask them why. I just knew that it was something that they could not do, and to beg is to let valuable time slip past you that you can use to take accountability for your life.

I left class not feeling satisfied with my position. I felt like I got so defensive that something else was driving my comeback.

I’m burnt out. The job, the friends, my radio show, my research class, my boyfriend, my family, assigned reading….EVERYTHING. It is not that I do not enjoy these things. The pressure to be well-rounded has driven me to take on new experiences, but what does it all mean if I am tired all the time?

I don’t remember the last time I read a book (assigned or for fun).

I am tired.

I have become capitalism’s little b*tch.

I want to be a kid again.

I WANT TO QUIT.

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Sacramento Celebrates National Poetry Month (Guerilla Style)


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April is National Poetry Month, and Sacramento is a great place to celebrate.

 Local promotional group ZFG, also known as Zero Forbidden Goals, will be celebrating this month in a non-traditional sort of way, Guerilla style. You may be thinking of warfare when the term “guerilla style” is mentioned, but over the course of 2014, ZFG has taken it and applied it to the arts.

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Choosing Health As You Age


If you saw me today, you wouldn’t believe there was a point in my life I weighed 173 lbs., but there was.

The moment that changed for me was when one of my closest friends asked me to be one of her bridesmaids and because we’re all Asian, I knew my weight and 5-foot-5-inch stature would surely make me stand out like wheat on white rice.

I got myself down to 145 lbs. before the wedding in June, but please hold the applause because I am not quite done. Embarrassingly, I’ve regained almost half of the weight back and am now at 161 lbs.

So guess where I’m back at… the gym!

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Where do you stand on PDA?


PDARegarding PDA (personal display of affection), I say it is hit and miss. Now let’s see the definition for PDA: A public display of affection is any gesture, which culture suggests is sexual or romantic in nature, taking place in arenas open to other members of the public. Some PDA gestures include hand-holding, touching, kissing, or hugging, and public venues can be schools, public streets, restaurants or bars, or community parks. Exactly what determines a public display of affection has to do with personal taste, cultural and religious beliefs, and any laws applying to a specific region. There is wide variance in what gestures are considered PDAs, and whether they are acceptable, tasteful or legal. Depending on the situation I think it can be acceptable but in our current geography I feel like it can be doing a little too much.

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Review of The Cheesecake Factory by Bee Tina


I have always enjoyed The Cheesecake Factory from way back in Seattle. The atmosphere is always fun and fast-paced. The food is never sent back and the drinks are high in helpings. The decoration on the walls are enchanting. The interior designs are elegant.

Nice Guy, Nice Try….The Friend Zone


Nice Guy, Nice Try, the Friend Zone

“You’re a good friend,” the phrase that puts such a fake smile on my face. Friendship is definitely an important component in many people’s lives as it relates to their social relationships. We often hear folks talk about the “friend zone” hence, I write this piece on such concept from my own perspective as a heterosexual, Black Male, in his early 20’s on the Friend Zone.

First, let’s define the Friend Zone (F-Zone). The Friend Zone is an invisible space, occupied by a person who attempted to enter a romantic relationship with a friend but failed to do so. As a result, this individual is put into the realm of just being the person’s friend with no chance of any future romance with that person. These so-called romantic attempts are usually prompted during a conversation, when one of the individuals expresses interest on the other and the response is something like the following: “you’re like a brother to me,” or “I only see you as a friend.” This tells the other person, subtly or not so subtly, that they just want to be friends, and as a result that person is put in the Friend Zone. [Read more…]

The interview with artist Jonathan (Charron) Waller


Unfortunately due to a lock out from the station we had to begin the interview several moments late, but Jonathan Waller was very humble and sympathetic over the situation. We started off the interview by playing some of his beats that he had produced in the background. He explained that he called his beat strictly by the number three and that he makes songs that are easy to remember by name .

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